three branches of love

Let us now look back at our original discussion of the Mitzva of Ahavas Yisroe-l. The question articulated by the Rabbi was,"how is it possible to care about someone else like yourself"?
This seems to be an impossibility . It isn't even healthy mentally. furthermore you are obligated to save yourself if it ever comes down to yourself or your fellowman. So how can you ever love your fellow like yourself if it can't be like yourself?
The rabbi's suggestion followed the pattern of finding new information where you do not have the problem posed by the question. The Rabbi posed the consideration that I want to care for myself. When would I want someone to care for me? Only in cases where i couldn't care for myself!
Similarly, my love for another should be similar to my love for myself. Where he can take care of himself he doesn't want nor need my care. Only where he can't do it by himself such as when he is sick or just married is there the obligation to do things for him that he can't easily do for himself.
In other words, the care and love i give him is the care and love i would want for myself!
The Rambam's approach is different . The Torah does want you to love that person. How is it possible to love the person the same as yourself-not that he becomes as important in your life as you are to yourself. Rather , how do you consciously love yourself?
Rambam answers , you love your dignity , life , possessions and family. Just as you like people
caring about your things,care about the other person's dignity and possessions. In other words love him the SAME WAY you love yourself just not as intensely as you love yourself!
This is inspiration, that is that from the objection you come to a higher awareness. Here it means to focus on the objects of your self love and love the same for your friend.
The reason given for not being able to love the person like yourself is because he is not you. You eat for your own health and well-being. You dress yourself to look presentable . You don't care for the other because he is not you!
Chassidus teaches that this is only from the perspective of the body which separates you from another . However, from the view of the soul you and he are the same soul enlivening different bodies. From the point of view of the Neshama , all of Israe-l is one! So how can you love him like yourself? Because he really is YOURSELF! It is only the body that doesn't allow for this truth to be visible. However, now that you know the truth act and learn to feel accordingly .
What about the hierarchy for survival? This is because the Torah set priorities of the individuals we must care for FIRST not whom we must care for!
This is our theme of sublimation, that the question is part of the solution. The reason we feel inclined to feed ourselves first is not for a lack of Ahavas Yisroe-l , but in order to have a hierarchy

of whom to care for first.